If you have a minute go and read this post at Life Version 2.0.
It really is an issue that I’m sad to find is just as much of a problem now as it was seventeen years ago when I had my first child.
I don’t find that it is as much of a challenge when my girls have wanted to wear “boy” clothes or play with “boys” toys as I ever did when my son wanted his nails painted or to play with dolls. These things for all of my children were something I was quite happy to provide to them, but I did find that social commentary and policing was more strongly enforced when my son wanted to step outside the norms. It seems that gender norms are much more guarded around our male children because they might *gasp* become soft or even gay by allowing them to have “girls” things, it’s so utterly ridiculous that it sets my brain on fire. I’ve tried to set a good example and show my children that these lines divided between masculine and feminine are arbitrary at best and insidious thought policing at it’s worst. Whether I’ve been successful I don’t feel I’ll really know until my children are adults and finding their own way in the world, then if I’m lucky I’ll see them standing firm in their choices regardless of cultural narratives. I hope that by making a stand for them it will no longer be an issue for my grandchildren.